Gracious | Odious |
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Proverbs 11:16 | Proverbs 30:21-23 |
Sweet | Sour |
Charming | Irritating |
Patient | Impatient |
Merciful | Critical |
Pleasant | Strained |
Comfortable | Stressful |
Agreeable | Opinionated |
Obliging | Assuming |
Enjoyable | Endurable |
Cheerful | Dour |
Kind | Perfunctory |
Smiles | Sober |
Courteous | Insensitive |
Compassionate | Businesslike |
Gentle | Harsh |
Relaxed | Uptight |
Soft | Hard |
Warm | Cool |
Flexible | Stubborn |
Thoughtful | Efficient |
Great Listener | Great Talker |
Very Thankful | Barely Thankful |
Considerate | Inconsiderate |
Grateful for correction | Defensive against correction |
Listens with eyes, ears, mind, and body | Thinking of what to say when she gets to talk |
Calm and collected | Jesting, babbling, and talking to fill gaps |
Remembers good details past and present about others | Preoccupied with self and her present and future |
Willing to do anything cheerfully | Grudgingly participates or rejects activity |
Modest and self-debasing | Confident and proud of self |
Forgives instantly and fully | Unforgiving or grudgingly so |
Genuinely interested in another | Preoccupied with self |
Thoughtfully kind to never offend | Tends to be abrupt and inconsiderate |
Accommodating | Demanding, asking, expecting |
Meek and reticent about praise | Expects and absorbs praise |
“You look very nice this morning.” | “Are you ill? You look somewhat sickly.” |
“That is a beautiful dress.” | “There is a spot on your collar.” |
“Those candies were the nicest gift.” | “My favorite kind has peanuts.” |
“My husband is a wonderful man.” | “He never notices or does anything nice for me.” |
“You did an excellent job with the children tonight.” | “I wish you wouldn’t take so long with devotions.” |
“What can I do to help with your hunting trip tomorrow?” | “Why do you have to go hunting every Saturday?” |
“May I go to the gun show with you today?” | “You just went to a gun show two months ago.” |
“We had a wonderful trip. Thank you for asking.” | “I threw up on the plane, and the hotel was dirty.” |
“The sermon was very good and convicting today.” | “Aren’t we ever going to get out of Luke?” |
Immediate and profuse thankfulness | Disconnected and minimal thankfulness |
Often sends a Thank you card later | Seldom thinks of a card for smaller things |
Believes she is not gracious | Believes she is gracious |
Never presumes or asks for favors | Easily presumes and asks and expects |
Never gets angry or ruffled or stiff or offended | Easily gets angry, ruffled, stiff, and offended |
Never speaks sarcastically or cutting | Easily gets sarcastic or cutting |
Willingly participates in group events | Shows dislike of choice or withdraws from group |
Very attentive and giving to inferiors | Condescending, formal and haughty to inferiors |
Her delightfully charming presence shines | Her harsh, edgy, hard, critical presence darkens |
Easily overlooks and ignores others’ faults | Verbally criticizes or bodily condemns for faults |
Wouldn’t cause a scene for any amount of money | Easily makes a scene for “principle” and no money |
Smiles, laughs, comforts a waitress who spills her wine | Frowns, criticizes, complains, and ruins evening |
Cheerfully greets husband two hours late from work | Does not greet him, complains, and punishes him |
Never demands or expects an apology for faults or failures | Expects, requests, demands an apology or punishes |
Willing to eat French fries when she ordered rice pilaf | Demands her rice and slams waitress for evening |
Cheerfully changes when husband dislikes her favorite outfit | Makes excuses, complains, and wears it anyway |
Enjoys taking the extra 10 minutes to talk to the elderly | Cuts conversation short and complains anyway |
Forgives in an instant and says apology was not necessary | Punishes, forgives slowly, criticizes, and reminds |
Never interrupts conversations to correct or add facts | Interrupts husband or others for trivial corrections |
Never says or repeats things about others who are absent | Easily whispers and slights others not present |
Always has time for anyone and everyone | Too busy and pressed to be attentive or helpful |
Others say, “She is such a beautiful and wonderful woman.” | Others say, “That’s Brenda. Try to overlook it.” |
Others say, “It is so pleasant and fun going out with her.” | Others say, “I’d rather not go, if she’s coming.” |
Men say, “Women like her are one in a million.” | Men say, “Can you imagine living with that?” |
Always turns conversations to talk about the other person | Turns or allows conversations to center on herself |
I forgive you; forget about it; I’ve already forgotten about it. | Do you know how much you hurt me? |