GraciousOdious
Proverbs 11:16Proverbs 30:21-23
SweetSour
CharmingIrritating
PatientImpatient
MercifulCritical
PleasantStrained
ComfortableStressful
AgreeableOpinionated
ObligingAssuming
EnjoyableEndurable
CheerfulDour
KindPerfunctory
SmilesSober
CourteousInsensitive
CompassionateBusinesslike
GentleHarsh
RelaxedUptight
SoftHard
WarmCool
FlexibleStubborn
ThoughtfulEfficient
Great ListenerGreat Talker
Very ThankfulBarely Thankful
ConsiderateInconsiderate
Grateful for correctionDefensive against correction
Listens with eyes, ears, mind, and bodyThinking of what to say when she gets to talk
Calm and collectedJesting, babbling, and talking to fill gaps
Remembers good details past and present about othersPreoccupied with self and her present and future
Willing to do anything cheerfullyGrudgingly participates or rejects activity
Modest and self-debasingConfident and proud of self
Forgives instantly and fullyUnforgiving or grudgingly so
Genuinely interested in anotherPreoccupied with self
Thoughtfully kind to never offendTends to be abrupt and inconsiderate
AccommodatingDemanding, asking, expecting
Meek and reticent about praiseExpects and absorbs praise
“You look very nice this morning.”“Are you ill? You look somewhat sickly.”
“That is a beautiful dress.”“There is a spot on your collar.”
“Those candies were the nicest gift.”“My favorite kind has peanuts.”
“My husband is a wonderful man.”“He never notices or does anything nice for me.”
“You did an excellent job with the children tonight.”“I wish you wouldn’t take so long with devotions.”
“What can I do to help with your hunting trip tomorrow?”“Why do you have to go hunting every Saturday?”
“May I go to the gun show with you today?”“You just went to a gun show two months ago.”
“We had a wonderful trip. Thank you for asking.”“I threw up on the plane, and the hotel was dirty.”
“The sermon was very good and convicting today.”“Aren’t we ever going to get out of Luke?”
Immediate and profuse thankfulnessDisconnected and minimal thankfulness
Often sends a Thank you card laterSeldom thinks of a card for smaller things
Believes she is not graciousBelieves she is gracious
Never presumes or asks for favorsEasily presumes and asks and expects
Never gets angry or ruffled or stiff or offendedEasily gets angry, ruffled, stiff, and offended
Never speaks sarcastically or cuttingEasily gets sarcastic or cutting
Willingly participates in group eventsShows dislike of choice or withdraws from group
Very attentive and giving to inferiorsCondescending, formal and haughty to inferiors
Her delightfully charming presence shinesHer harsh, edgy, hard, critical presence darkens
Easily overlooks and ignores others’ faultsVerbally criticizes or bodily condemns for faults
Wouldn’t cause a scene for any amount of moneyEasily makes a scene for “principle” and no money
Smiles, laughs, comforts a waitress who spills her wineFrowns, criticizes, complains, and ruins evening
Cheerfully greets husband two hours late from workDoes not greet him, complains, and punishes him
Never demands or expects an apology for faults or failuresExpects, requests, demands an apology or punishes
Willing to eat French fries when she ordered rice pilafDemands her rice and slams waitress for evening
Cheerfully changes when husband dislikes her favorite outfitMakes excuses, complains, and wears it anyway
Enjoys taking the extra 10 minutes to talk to the elderlyCuts conversation short and complains anyway
Forgives in an instant and says apology was not necessaryPunishes, forgives slowly, criticizes, and reminds
Never interrupts conversations to correct or add factsInterrupts husband or others for trivial corrections
Never says or repeats things about others who are absentEasily whispers and slights others not present
Always has time for anyone and everyoneToo busy and pressed to be attentive or helpful
Others say, “She is such a beautiful and wonderful woman.”Others say, “That’s Brenda. Try to overlook it.”
Others say, “It is so pleasant and fun going out with her.”Others say, “I’d rather not go, if she’s coming.”
Men say, “Women like her are one in a million.”Men say, “Can you imagine living with that?”
Always turns conversations to talk about the other personTurns or allows conversations to center on herself
I forgive you; forget about it; I’ve already forgotten about it.Do you know how much you hurt me?