A Mighty Man’s Life
“Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong.”
I Corinthians 16:13
#1: SPIRITUAL DUTIES
- Do you read your Bible by yourself daily in a prayerful, meditative way (Job 23:12; Ps 1:1-3)?
- Do you pray daily by yourself, other than at meals (Ps 55:17; Dan 6:10; Eph 6:18; James 5:16)?
- Do you examine and judge yourself with the Lord’s help (Job 34:31-32; Ps 139:23-24; I Cor 11:28)?
- Do you confess your sins thoroughly every day (Job 33:27-28; Ps 32:5; Prov 28:13; I John 1:9)?
- Do you pray for God to fill and control you with the Holy Spirit (Luke 11:13; Eph 1:17; 3:16)?
- Do you sing or listen to godly music regularly (Psalm 104:33; Eph 5:19; Col 3:16; James 5:13)?
- Do you delight in the Lord God on a personal and intimate basis (Ps 37:4; Jer 9:23-24; Job 22:21)?
- Do you walk with God and seek His face like the great men (Gen 5:22-24; 6:9; 17:1; Ex 33:11)?
- Do you fulfill the will of God for your life in the matter of giving thanks (Eph 5:20; I Thes 5:18)?
- Do you keep your heart with all diligence and focused on things above (Prov 4:23; Col 3:2)?
- Are you praying to grow in grace and in the Lord Jesus Christ (Eph 3:14-19; Jas 1:5; II Pet 3:18)?
- What is your biggest temptation to compromise holiness (Ps 19:13; Heb 12:1; Prov 5:19; Col 3:19)?
- What costly steps have you taken to fight this temptation (Ps 101:3-8; Matt 5:29-30; Rom 13:14)?
- What hinders you the most in walking with God daily (Luke 8:11-18; I John 2:15-17; Rom 13:14)?
- Can you recall sermons that convicted or instructed you (Ps 119:11; Prov 3:1-4; 6:20-22; 7:1-3)?
- Is your reputation in the church one of spirituality or carnality (Ps 37:37; Phil 3:17-21; Gal 6:1)?
- Do you speak often and consistently to others about the Lord (Malachi 3:16-17; Heb 10:23-25)?
- Do you bear the fruit of the Spirit visibly for others to behold (Gal 5:22-23; Eph 5:9; Acts 6:3)?
- Do others know you are a Christian by the good conduct of your life (Matt 5:16; I Pet 2:11-12)?
- For more help, consult the sermons about David’s heart, delighting in the Lord, and so forth.
#2: MARITAL DUTIES
- Rate your marital happiness from 1 to 10. If not happy, then change it. You must as the man.
- How would your wife rate it, if she could tell the truth? Which truth the Lord already knows!
- How would her parents and children rate it, if they could tell the truth? God already knows!
- Are you keeping all of God’s intimate duties in your marriage (Prov 5:19; I Cor 7:1-5; Heb 13:4)?
- Are you cherishing and nourishing your wife as you do your body (Eph 5:28-29; I Peter 3:7)?
- Are you both happily married and fulfilled in intimate matters (Solomon Song 2:4-7; I Cor 7:1-5)?
- Is your wife with you because she fears God or because she loves you? Consider it carefully.
- Do you have any problems or temptations with pornography (Job 31:1; Ps 101:3; Prov 5:19)?
- Do you know God loaned you a woman, and you will give account (Prov 18:22; Mal 2:10-16)?
- Do you cherishingly love your wife away from the bedroom (Deut 24:5; Eph 5:28-29; I Pet 3:7)?
- Do you remember your wife, if she is a mother, and works 24/7 while you only work 7/5?
- Are you managing your marriage by being your wife’s loving leader (Gen 3:16; I Cor 14:35)?
- What is the biggest difficulty in your marriage? Are you solving it? Is it better than ever?
- Do you pray with your wife for your marriage and for your family (Matt 18:19; I Cor 9:5)?
- Have you eliminated all bitterness from her and you (Col 3:19; I Pet 3:7; Mal 2:13; Jas 2:13-18)?
- For more help, consult your marriage covenant, the marriage handbook, or marriage sermons.
#3: PARENTAL DUTIES
- Are you a proactive father working for the future lives of your children (Genesis 18:19; Job 1:5)?
- Do you have a copy of the Family Planning manual and ever refer to it (Ps 78:1-8; Joel 1:1-3)?
- Do you provide a Bible worldview for them on every subject and issue (Josh 24:15; Eph 6:4)?
- Have you identified problems in your children, and are you diligently working on them?
- How would your wife rate you as a father from 1 to 10? This is likely truer than your rating.
- Do you have a regular time for devotions or Bible training (Deut 4:5-10; 6:4-9; II Tim 3:15)?
- Do you have a mechanism for frequent instruction on other matters (Prov 1:8; 6:20)?
- Do you communicate with your children regularly to purge bitterness (Col 3:21; John 15:15)?
- Are you knowledgeable of the value of hope and whether they have any (Matt 7:9-11; Col 3:21)?
- Are you taking the necessary time and effort to win their hearts (Deut 6:5; Prov 4:23; 23:15,26)?
- Do you pursue them when they do not communicate or have internal problems (Luk 15:28-32)?
- Are you vigilantly aware of their lives i.e. friends, music, romance, plans, whereabouts?
- Are your children happy and spiritually growing in grace, or sullen worldlings (Ps 144:12)?
- Do your children love and care for each other with tender affection (Gen 18:19; Heb 13:1)?
- Are you managing their education – emphasizing spiritual over academic (Ps 78:1-8; Eph 6:4)?
- Are you praying and working to get them the godliest spouses possible (Gen 24:1-67; 28:1-5)?
- Are you helping them prepare for, get into, and succeed at a good profession (Pr 24:27; 27:23)?
- Are you helping them be successful at all the other practical aspects of a successful life?
- For more help, consult the notebook, Great Fathers for the Lord, issued in October, 2010.
#4: CHURCH DUTIES
- Have you missed any assemblies recently without a holy reason (Psalm 42:4; 122:1; Heb 10:25)?
- Do you attend assemblies without initiating godly speech with others (Heb 3:12-13; 10:24-25)?
- Are you alert, ready, and eager for worshipping during the assemblies (Ps 122:1; Matt 13:19)?
- Do you prepare and pray on Saturday nights for assemblies (Gen 35:1-3; Ex 19:9-11; Acts 13:42)?
- Are you given to hospitality toward brethren, as commanded (Rom 12:13; Heb 13:2; I Pet 4:9)?
- Do you communicate systematically outside assemblies with members (Mal 3:16; Heb 3:12-13)?
- Have you settled all disputes with every member to make peace (Matt 5:23-26; Phil 2:1-4; 4:2)?
- Are you working on the relationship with your most distant member (I Cor 12:23-24; 13:4-7)?
- What could you do better to promote church fellowship and growth in grace (Eph 4:16)?
- Do you volunteer to do any of the many small tasks needed by the church (Rom 16:1-2)?
- For more help, consult the outlines pertaining to church life and questions for membership.
#5: FAMILY DUTIES
- Do you regularly communicate with and honor your parents (Eph 6:1-3; I Tim 5:8)?
- Do you regularly communicate with and honor your in-laws (Exodus 18:1-12; I Tim 5:8)?
- Do you regularly communicate with and honor any step-relatives that you might have?
- Are there any existing conflicts in your family you could resolve as a peacemaker?
- What is your relationship with your siblings and your wife’s siblings? Is God pleased?
- Are there any indigent persons among your relatives you could help (I Tim 5:8)?
- Are you known in your larger family as a spiritual leader or a lazy loser (Gen 18:19)?
- Are you known in your larger family as a peacemaker and willing to help anyone?
- For more help, consult the outlines about honoring parents and your relationship wheel.
#6: PROFESSIONAL DUTIES
- Have you acquired, or are you working on a proven transferable skill (Prov 24:27; Acts 18:1-3)?
- Are you content with your present position and wages in a godly way (Luke 3:14; I Tim 6:6-10)?
- Was your last review/raise indicative of diligence and virtue (Gen 39:4,22; 41:39-40; I Kgs 11:28)?
- Are you considering the future and seeing any trends against your profession (Pr 27:23-24)?
- Are there any severe temptations in your present position (Gen 39:12; Rom 13:14; II Tim 2:22)?
- Do your colleagues and employer know you are a Christian by conduct (Matt 5:16; I Pet 2:12)?
- Do you serve your master with all your heart and might to honor Christ (Ep 6:5-8; Col 3:22-25)?
- Does your job conduct adorn the doctrine of God our Saviour (I Timothy 6:1-2; Titus 2:9-10)?
- Do you keep your job or business where it belongs, well down your priorities (I Tim 6:6-10)?
- Are you thankful for work and income, or can you only complain about your situation?
- Are others excited and interested to hear about your job, or sick and tired of hearing?
- For more help, see the outlines about a Christian work ethic and the Bible and employment.
#7: FINANCIAL DUTIES
- Are you paying God first? Systematically? Generously? Cheerfully? See Prov 3:9-10; Mal 3:7-12.
- Are you paying yourself second? Systematically? Leaving it inviolate? See Prov 6:6-8; 30:25.
- Is your biggest problem working hard, working smart, foolish spending, no saving, or what?
- Do you have problems with debts? Are you the head or the tail (Deut 28:13; Pr 22:7; Rom 13:8)?
- Does your credit score reflect a Christian man or worldly fool (II Cor 8:21; Col 4:5; I Thess 5:22)?
- Do your payment habits reflect a Christian man or a worldly fool (Gen 39:6; Dan 6:4)?
- Are your financial records current and in good order, to track expenses and plan wisely?
- Does your present professional position provide enough income (I Thess 4:11-12; Eph 4:28)?
- Do you know how many children you can afford, and do you have less than that number?
- Are you content with what you have and seeking godliness (Matt 6:33; I Tim 6:6-10; Heb 13:5-6)?
- Are you wisely insured to protect against catastrophic loss (Pr 6:1-5; 22:26-27; Luke 4:9-12)?
- For more help, consult the Bible Economics outline and other men’s meeting materials.
#8: SOCIAL DUTIES
- Are you at peace with all neighbors and colleagues outside the church (Rom 12:18; Gal 6:10)?
- Do you have an honest report of all those outside the church (Acts 6:3; I Tim 3:7; III John 1:12)?
- Do you live peaceably with all men, including personal enemies (Matt 5:43-48; Rom 12:17-21)?
- Are your good works visible to men, and such that they glorify God (Matt 5:16; I Pet 2:12)?
- Are you known by neighbors, peers at work, and others as very gracious (Ps 22:11; Col 4:6)?
#9: PERSONAL DUTIES
- Are you as fit as you should be for your wife, energy, and health (I Cor 6:19-20; Eph 5:28-29)?
- Are you guilty of food intemperance by indulgence or by obesity (Prov 23:20-21; I Cor 9:24-27)?
- Do you have any health problems that you should prudently attend to (Prov 11:17; 27:12)?
- What is your greatest temperamental weakness? And are you fighting it hard (Prov 16:32)?
- Do you have any ungodly temptations to alcohol, tobacco, food, or drugs (Pr 23:21; I Cor 6:12)?
- Are your house, cars, and other assets in the condition they should be in (Prov 12:27; 18:9)?
- If you were to die tonight, are your will, papers, and insurance in good order (Pr 22:3; Is 38:1)?
#10: CIVIL AND NATIONAL DUTIES
- Do you pray for our president and other leaders as godly men would (Jer 29:4-7; I Tim 2:1-3)?
- Do you strictly avoid speaking evil of dignities (Ecclesiastes 10:20; II Pet 2:10-12; Jude 1:8-10)?
- Do you avoid those that meddle with changing government (Prov 24:21-22; Eccl 8:2-5)?
- Do you submit to every ordinance of man for the Lord’s sake (Rom 13:1-7; I Pet 2:13-17)?
- Are you clean with the IRS and any other taxing authorities (Matt 22:15-22; Rom 13:1-7)?
- For more help, see the outlines about the Christian and taxes, the IRS, and civil government.