“A soft answer turneth away wrath:
but grievous words stir up anger.”
Those are fighting words! In any confrontation, your words can end or escalate the strife. What will you choose? Wisdom learns how to calm angry persons. Relational success depends on ending others’ wrath, especially superiors.
“He that loveth pureness of heart,
for the grace of his lips
the king shall be his friend.”
A glorious proverb! Kings will befriend the person with gracious speech! Solomon had seen this with his father David and Jonathan. But his inspired wisdom tells the secret of how it is done. A pure heart that rules your mouth!
“Seest thou a man that is hasty in his words?
there is more hope of a fool than of him.”
A fast answer does not prove knowledge or wisdom. Haste makes waste, even in speech. Slow down! Think first! Make sure you know your subject before talking. A person that talks fast and answers quickly is worse than a fool!
“There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword:
but the tongue of the wise is health.”
Do your words leave others bleeding or growing? If you are caustic, critical, or sarcastic, others are bleeding and trying to avoid you. If you are gentle, gracious, and kind, they are growing and seeking you often.
“Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue
keepeth his soul from troubles.”
Words get most people into trouble. If you can learn to choose and measure speech carefully, you can avoid much pain in life. You have spoken and observed words causing problems, just like Solomon. But he had the answer for it!
“She openeth her mouth with wisdom;
and in her tongue is the law of kindness.”
A woman’s mouth has great potential for good and evil. A virtuous woman always speaks wisely, and a law of kindness rules her words. But most women destroy life’s tranquility with their cackling, critical, contentious nonsense.
“He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life:
but he that openeth wide his lips
shall have destruction.”
Your life is in your mouth! If you guard your speech, you will be prosperous and successful. If you open your lips whenever you feel like it, you will be destroyed. How? In your marriage, in your profession, and in every part of life.