That they may keep thee from the strange woman, from the stranger which flattereth with her words.
It is God’s blessing to have a wife as your life companion and lover (Pr 18:22; 19:14; Gen 2:18; Eccl 9:9; Heb 13:4). Any other woman, though you may know her, though you may want her, is a stranger. She cannot be your companion or lover. She is an outsider, a foreigner, to your marriage. Solomon warned long and loud against the sin of adultery.
Sexual sin is a great threat to wisdom, success, and prosperity. It corrupts and enslaves body and soul (Pr 5:20-23; 7:22-27). History reveals the destroyed lives of men, who did not reject the advances or availability of a woman outside their marriages. From princes to paupers, men have been seduced and sacrificed by adulteresses (Pr 23:27-28; 31:3).
What is a strange woman? Solomon used this description to describe an adulteress or whore, a woman that you have no right before God or men to have sex with (Pr 2:16; 5:3,10,20; 6:24; 7:5; 20:16; 22:14; 23:27,33; 27:13). Jephthah was the son of a strange woman, because his father conceived him with a prostitute (Judges 11:1-2).
How is she strange? Does it only apply to liaisons with unknown partners? No, the word is used to describe a woman with whom you have no rights for intimate companionship or sexual pleasures. She is outside your marriage. She is a foreigner to your bed. She belongs to another man, either father or husband. You have no marital rights to her.
Where is she found? Anywhere, today! Street prostitutes and hired escorts are extreme examples. Women’s liberation and Hollywood give every woman the right to sex, so she is in the office, the neighborhood, the gym, or even church. The perilous times of the last days turn even Christian girls and women into whores (II Tim 3:1-5; II Pet 2:10-19).
Consensual sex is a lie – your Creator God has not consented! It does not matter that she is willing, wanting, or eager. The King of heaven is angry, jealous, and provoked. Do not call it a “victimless” crime! The Lord is a victim of your moral rebellion. And there are always other victims to sexual sins, even if you are too selfish or stupid to consider them.
Flattery is her tool. Men are helpless before the seductive and smooth praise of a whore (Pr 2:16; 5:3; 6:24; 7:21). Here are two lessons: men must avoid communication with flirting women, and wives should praise their husbands. Proverbs are dark sayings, and every bit of wisdom should be extracted from them for you to maximize success in life.
Godly men will strictly guard exchanges with women other than their wives in person, by phone, by email, or by text. Wise men are not moved by the lying words of liars, and there is hardly a greater liar than an unfaithful woman. She hides death and hell by her adoring and intimate words (Pr 2:18; 5:4-5; 7:27; 9:18). Prudent men know she has told others the same things in the past and will tell yet others in the future.
Christian wives will adore and praise their husbands, so the flattery of whores will not affect them as much. Paul commanded wives to reverence husbands (Eph 5:33). Peter illustrated a wife’s spirit by Sarah calling Abraham lord, even in her thoughts (I Pet 3:6; Gen 18:12). Loving a husband, a duty of wives (Tit 2:3-5), includes loving him verbally. When was the last time you told or wrote your husband about the great man, provider, and lover he is? If he is not, then find those good things he is and tell him passionately.
Solomon diligently tried to warn his son (Pr 7:1-3). You have this personal warning from the wisest man on earth in writing. How well will you listen? Wisdom, success, and prosperity are impossible, if you allow strange women a place in your life. You must hate her in pornography, movies, advertisements, the gym, the office, or your church. Get a wife and love her today (Pr 5:15-20). A good wife is better than any ten whores.